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| Volume 10 No. 3 2000 Oriental Dolls | |
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| ORIENTAL
DOLLS: Mac, thanks for joining us again. I know
there are a lot of men who are interested in more than just what the Orient
offers in terms of casual sex. What about finding a wife in Asia? How does
one go about doing that? MAC HORN: If you are looking for a serious relationship with an Asian woman, you can certainly find it with little effort. Take a trip to Angeles City in the Philippines or South Pattaya in Thailand, where there are hundreds, even thousands, of girls who will be more than interested in what you have to offer. OD: Once you get to Angeles City or South Pattaya, for example, how do you find the right girl? MH: By far, the easiest and quickest place to find what you are looking for will be in the bars. While it's true many bar girls are there just to prostitute themselves, you would be amazed at how many bar girls are interested in finding a foreigner to marry. In fact, I would dare to say a quite surprising percentage of the Filipina bar girls in Angeles City are much more interested in long term relationships than one-nightstands. The question is how to differentiate between the ones that are really seeking a sincere relationship and those who are just out to scam you for money. OD: How do you go about choosing the one that is more marriage-minded than money-minded? MH: This is where it gets complicated. Many bar girls, both in the Philippines and in Thailand, are experts at playing the roll of "Miss Innocent Virgin," while in reality they could put any porno actress to shame. The problem is, many foreigners don't realize that both Thai and Filipino bar girls will work three or even four boyfriends, all at the same time. Of course, many of the foreigners have two or three girlfriends at the same time as well, so it's a game both tend to play. So, the first thing I want to know about a girl is her past relationships with men, as well as her current relationships. In other words, you better make sure the girl you are chasing is not already involved with someone else. Believe me, between living in Thailand for almost three years and the Philippines for two years, I've seen it happen over and over. A foreigner falls in love with a Filipina or Thai bar girl, and little does he know she has two or three other boyfriends (or even husbands!) on the side. So, this is an issue you must address. OD: How do you go about finding that out? Can't you dust ask the girl if she is involved with someone else? MH: Yes, you can and you should. Unfortunately, if a girl is a pro and she is just out to scam guys on the side. However, some girls are honest and will tell the truth. You should at least start out by asking them, and I would ask several times as the truth often comes out eventually. For example, I had one friend who was interested in marrying a really sweet Filipina bar girl. She at first denied she had a boyfriend, but later told him up front she had an American boyfriend who was supporting her while he was out of the country. unfortunately, my friend's ego got in the way and he thought he could pull her away from her supporter. He didn't and lost her. The moral of the story is, you first ask the girl if she is involved with someone else. If she says she is, move on to the next girl. And believe me, there are many girls to move on to. |
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| OD:
But what happens if the girl says she has no other
boyfriend or husband? Do you take her word on it? MH: No, you must test her to be sure she is telling the truth. There are signs to look for which will tell you right away whether or not a girl has at least one other boyfriend who is supporting her. The most obvious is if the girl has a cellular phone that is functional. I guarantee you, if she has a cellular phone that works, she has a boyfriend abroad who is still in touch and most likely supporting her. So, she would be the first type of girl I would want to avoid. Any girl with a cell phone is involved with someone else. If you get involved with her, you will be number two, possibly even number three or four on her list. OD: Why is having a cell phone indicative of a woman having a boyfriend. MH: Unlike here in the US where everyone has a phone in their home, most of the girls who you will meet in Thailand or the Philippines have no telephone at all. Getting a phone installed in a house or an apartment is extremely difficult because many areas have no available phone lines. For example, while living in the Philippines, I waited for over one month too get my phone installed and that itself was a miracle. In Thailand and the Philippines, having a telephone is a privilege few enjoy. Most bar girls live without one. What this means is if a foreigner falls in love with a girl, and wants to stay in contact when he returns, to his country, the easiest way is to buy her a cellular phone which she can activate immediately. In the Philippines, the girls cannot afford to buy their own cellular phone . No way! Furthermore, there is no reason for a Filipina girl to have a cellular phone because their family and friends have no phone in their home-who are they going to call? A cellular phone is only for the girl who wants to be in contact with her boyfriend or husband abroad. The same pretty much applies to the bar girls in Thailand, although I would say they could afford to buy a phone if they wanted. Many Thai bar girls are making good money. Except for being a status symbol which only a few rich bar girls can afford to enjoy, a cellular phone has only one purpose: to enable a foreigner to stay in touch with his girlfriend while he is abroad. That is why he bought the phone, so he can call her. OD: But it’s also possible that the girl with a cellular phone had a boyfriend she separated with but still has the phone. MH: Most likely, when she breaks up, she will pawn the phone just like everything else of value. I learned this lesson a long time ago. Whatever you buy for a bar girl, like a phone, a gold bracelet, watch, or any other type of jewelry, will eventually be pawned. OD: So, a guy meets a girl and she has no phone. What is the next step? MH: The next most important step is to visit her home. Any girl who refuses to let you come visit her, I guarantee you, either has a husband or a boyfriend living with her or has photos from abroad plastered all over her walls. Obviously, she won’t want you to come to her house to see that. Furthermore, visiting her home gives you a chance to see her living conditions and to be blunt, to snoop around. For example, I fell in love with a Filipina girl in Angeles City. She told me she was single and had no boyfriend or husband. However, one day at her apartment, I was going through her photo albums, and found a wedding photo. Guess who was the bride? When caught, she finally confessed and I discovered that I was dating a girl who was still married. Her husband was in the States and little did he know what his wife was up to-yes, the girl was letting me sleep with her. Luckily for me, I found out early in the game that she was still married. I would have never known this had I not visited her home and snooped around. You do the same. OD: I am not sure I understand why these girls would be so deceptive. If they have a husband or a boyfriend, why lie about it? What is the point? MH: The point is, a professional bar girl in Thailand or the Philippines will work several boyfriends at the same time. When each boyfriend leaves the country, she has them all send her money, normally on a monthly basis. In some cases, that is how the girl and her family can get enough to eat. OD: Are you saying that a girl who is being supported by a foreigner will still be sleeping around while he is out of the country? MH: In most cases, yes. The exception would be if you have already married the girl and are supporting her. Most likely, she will be faithful. But, if the relationship has not yet reached marriage, or engagement, I can guarantee you most girls will not stay faithful. I know, there are guys out there who are thinking, , “My girlfriend is special, she would never do that” or they think “If I just send her enough money, she won’t work bar anymore.” Bullshit! No matter how much money you send her or how much you think she is not that type of girl, I practically guarantee you, , unless you have already married her, she is going to sleep around while you are out of the country. I know because my friends and have slept with more than a handful of both Thai and Filipina girls who have who support them from abroad. The minute the boyfriend comes into the country, the girl sticks to them like glue. The minute he leaves, she ‘s using the very cellular phone he bought for her to call me so can come over and suck my dick. I am dead serious. OD: Wow! That is quite a scam they have going on there. And here in the States, we are being told it is the tourists who are exploiting the bar girls. Sounds like it is exactly the opposite. MH: You would be amazed how much bullshit we have been fed by the media on what really goes on in SE Asia. Just about everything that you have heard in the mainstream media is exactly the opposite of what goes on in the real world. OD: Well, between the girls and the phones, the ones that have live-in boyfriends or husbands, and those who are being supported by two or three boyfriends at the same time, things look pretty grim. MH: This is the dark side and you should know about it. However, certainly not every bar girl is out there to scam a tourist-there are sincere girls who really want to be involved with just one guy. So, I bring these points up not to scare you off, but to keep you from getting involved with the wrong girl. If you test out your girl carefully and don’t walk around with a hard-on, ready to put a wedding ring on the first girl that gives you a smile, you very well might end up with a great girl. To me, it’s all a learning experience and an adventure. Approach it from that angle and no matter what happens, you will enjoy life to the fullest. And that’s what its all about. OD: Mac, one more question. Say a guy has fallen in love with a Thai or Fiipina girl and he is all paranoid about her sleeping around. What do you recommend he do? MH: The best thing that you can do if you are supporting a bar girl is to move her out of the area where she worked in the bar. The best place to move her to is her hometown, where her family is. That way, while you are gone, you can rest assured her mother and father will look after her. If you leave her in the red-light district where you met her in the first place, like Angeles City or South Pattaya, she is a sitting duck to the temptation of sleeping around. You must get her back home, living with her family, until you are ready to be pronounced man and wife. If she is unwilling to move out of Angeles City or South Pattaya, you have the wrong girl. It is that simple. OD: Mac, we certainly have to talk more about his, but for now, we are out of time. Thanks for your time, and we hope to see you again. |
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ABOUT THE AUTHOR Mac Horn is the author of A Gentleman's Guide: The Erotic Women of Southeast Asia and Producer/Director of Travel & Erotic Videos to Thailand, Philippines and Cambodia. |
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