Dexterhorn's How to get your Filipina to the US

THE INS INTERVIEW: DOWNTOWN, L.A.

Anyway, we passed with flying colors and told us that Rowena will get her permanent visa status in the mail. This will grant her stay in the U.S. for the next ten years even if she got divorced tomorrow. After 2 more years she may apply to become a United States citizen. We stayed together for another 6 months and finally separated and got divorced in December of 97. Rowena signed the divorce papers and that was it. NO lawyers, no lawsuits, no court dates, no bullshit! She had promised, the day I asked her to marry me that she would never cause me any problems if we should ever get divorced. She had kept her word and even admitted that some of her low life American girlfriends were telling her that she should hire a divorce attorney and take me to court. She had told me that she owed me a lot for making it possible for her to come here to the U.S. We still talk occasionally on the phone and still remain friends.

I can't guarantee that if any of you marry a Filipina from the Philippines, you will experience the same outcome if a divorce should ever occur. But you should know this about the Filipino culture. There is no divorce in the Philippines. It is against the law. The Government does not allow divorces. This law was instituted and is upheld because of the Catholic Church. The courts are not even set up to have a divorce proceeding. Imagine a place where there are no divorce attorneys. No wonder their yellow pages are half the size as the ones we have here in California. (Ha ha) I was lucky that Rowena was brought up in this kind of environment where not only divorce is unheard of, but where husbands and wives forgo the saddening destruction of their families by extreme vengeance as well.
A close friend said to me once that "marriage should be like making pancakes, you should be able to throw the first one out."